Ready To Let Go?

Recently a client was making excuses for not following through on having a conversation with an employee regarding her performance. We began to walk through the approach when she ended up sharing a story of being on the receiving end of this type of conversation that left her feeling inadequate and ashamed. She was blamed for everything that went wrong on a particular project.

Since she told the story with so much detail and emotional charge I asked, “How long ago was this?” I was expecting to hear several weeks ago. Her answer was six years ago! 

She was still holding onto the negative emotions after six years! As if having these feelings weren’t bad enough, this negative experience was impacting her ability to effectively handle the difficult conversations in her life now. It was holding her back both professionally and personally.

Warning! None of us are immune from holding onto emotionally charged experiences from the past. 

The good news is it’s curable! Bringing this situation out in the open was helpful to move through the negative feelings. It also provided us with the opportunity to break down the elements of the circumstance, discuss the delivery of the message and extract the lessons. 

Lessons Learned:

• She didn’t need to behave badly or make her employee feel inadequate. She had the choice to be respectful of the other person and discuss what went wrong.

• She didn't need to blame. She could handle the conversation by addressing the issues and be open to discussing best practices for the future.

• She would never have a difficult conversation with another person when she was emotional. She would deliver her message when she was able to separate the emotions from the issue.

This new awareness inspired change for my client and allowed her to let go of the old emotions. She got clear in regards to her message and the delivery. She was committed to intentionally creating an experience that aligned with her personal brand reflecting who she was. This gave her the confidence to embrace having the difficult conversations with all the people in her life.

Negative experiences can hold powerful emotional charges. The emotional charge dissipates when there is awareness and you are willing to fearlessly deal with it head on!

Are you ready to face an emotionally charged experience and breakthrough what is holding you back?


Awareness is the first step to letting go!

Align yourself with what matters most to you. Live your brand fully expressed with intention and purpose to achieve outstanding results!